Infertility and the Law of Compensation

I came across this talk by Joseph B. Wirthlin called “Come What May, and Love It.” It’s a wonderful talk, if you have time you should read the whole thing.

My favorite part is what he calls the Principle of Compensation. He says, “The Lord compensates the faithful for every loss. That which is taken away from those who love the Lord will be added unto them in His own way. While it may not come at the time we desire, the faithful will know that every tear today will eventually be returned a hundredfold with tears of rejoicing and gratitude.”

I think I’d like to get that framed where I can read it every day! There are very special blessings waiting for us in heaven!

I’m still working on the “loving it” part. That might be a lifetime pursuit to learn to love being infertile. But, with God, anything is possible!

Plan C – Adoption or Donor Sperm

It’s been a few weeks since Mr.E’s mTESE during which zero sperm were found. *sigh*

Plan A was to get pregnant like everyone else does. Didn’t happen. Plan B was to get pregnant using mTESE, ICSI, and IVF. Not gonna happen.

So now we have to move to Plan C. But we don’t know what Plan C should be! We basically have 8 options. In no particular order, they are:
1. Random sperm donor
2. Known sperm donor
3. Traditional adoption
4. Embryo adoption
6. Random egg donor plus sperm donor
7. Foster parenting
8. Remain childless
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How to Announce Your Infertility

How do you tell your family and friends you’re infertile? And not just a little infertile or having a rough time. We cannot/will not have biological children no matter what we do.

Do we tell them over the phone? Or get on Skype or Facetime? Or wait until we see them in person?

How many details do we give? Should we tell them about the azoospermia? Or should we keep it simple and just say we can’t have biological children? Should we tell them Mr.E has had 2 surgeries? And that I have 21 eggs on ice? And that we’ve spent over $60,000 trying to make this happen?

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